I recently watched this video with Curly Nikki on the Steve Harvey show and although I know I am late, I still have to comment. The video is about a woman on Steve’s show who decided to wear her hair natural but her husband hates it as he is used to seeing her with long, straight weaves.
This drives home a point I made a few years ago to one of my weave enthusiast friends. I told her that while I have no issues with weaves per se and would probably try one in the future, I was very skeptical to meet guys and go out on a first date with one on. I think it complicates things when you do decide to go natural and they aren’t familiar with you without straight hair. I agree that people should fall in love for way more than looks but since natural hair has had so many negatives associated with it for so long, it is a still a process trying to get some folk to see the beauty in it.
Natural hair acceptance has come a long way these last few years but still has a long way to go. I remember being called all sorts of things when I big chopped years ago. Even by family members who ironically now some of them have become naturals. With men, it is a whole other ball game because while some have no issue with it there are still a few men, like the one in the video, who go through shock when women go natural. I really believe this is a situation where although the husband loves his wife, I feel he also fell in love with her having a certain look and now he can’t get past that. That’s something they will have to work out together or with a good counselor but I am not here to comment on people’s marriage.
I did like the styles that Nikki brought out but I was disappointed that they didn’t bring out more practical styles that someone with her clearly 4b/4c texture could use. This is what bothers me the most about the whole video. The husband already has a hard time accepting her Type 4 texture but then they bring out styles that cater to a different texture that may look different on her hair, thus giving the couple unrealistic expectations. Type 4 hair is beautiful and it is the most versatile of all hair types. I know she can pull off a lot of hairdos but we need to stop using Type 3 textures to advise Type 4 naturals.
— Craig Groeschel-Weird (via themellowcanary)